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Sarah Bender

In Loving Memory

Bender, Sarah J.

Bender, Sarah J. (nee Hegger), born October 18th, 1986 in Saint Louis, Missouri passed away on Monday, December 18, 2023. Beloved wife of Nicholas A. “Nick” Bender. Dear mother of Liam Bender and Ava Bender. Dear daughter of Dan and Vickie Hegger. Dear sister of Dawn (Jack) Limpert. Dear aunt of Garrett Limpert, Caleb Limpert, Chloe Bender, Tripp Bender, Isla Clegg and baby Clegg to come. Dear daughter-in-law of James and Brenda Bender. Dear sister-in-law of Kayla (Chris) Clegg and Chris Bender. Our dear niece, cousin and friend.

Visitation at Twin Rivers Church, 10575 Tesson Ferry Rd. (63123) Friday December 22, 3:00 pm until service at 7:00 pm. Service concludes at church. In lieu of flowers, contributions to Liam and Ava’s college fund (<—- click this link) appreciated. Kutis South County service.


27 thoughts on “Bender, Sarah J.”

  1. I’m Carson B Hellwege one of Sarah Benders younger cousins and I just wanted to say that she was a very good person always caring, always nice and was a good parent while she had cancer.

  2. Brenda & Kayla

    “Deepest condolences to you and your family for your loss. I cannot imagine the pain and heartache you’re feeling. I am praying for your peace and comfort.”

  3. The strongest woman I know . What a beautiful woman inside and out. You’re with God now. You will never be forgotten ❤️🙏🏻

  4. To our dear friend Sarah,

    I hope you know how many lives you touched. How many people you’ve come across that you’ve given hope to. How many will now not take life for granted, because it can be ripped away so suddenly.

    Your world was your family. Your loving husband. Your 2 beautiful children. And of course, your 3 pups. Your spirit will live on within them forever. Within all of us that were fortunate enough to cross paths with you.

    We’ll forever know you as a warrior. An inspiration to so many – no matter if we just recently met you or knew you since you were a child. We’re all better people to have known you. We will always remember our beautiful friend, Sarah Bender. We love you.

    Sunshine = smile is brighter than the sun.
    Attitude = no one can convince you it can’t be done.
    Radiant = your energy is felt everywhere
    Amazing = friend, wife & mother.
    Hero = forever to us all.

  5. Brenda & family…my heart breaks for all of you at the news of Sarah’s going home to our Father. I pray God sends you peace & understanding in the following weeks as you all try to heal from your loss. Love ya my Sister in Christ 💜

  6. Brenda, Kayla and family,
    I’m sure Sarah was a beautiful light that left us too soon. Condolences to you and your family during this difficult time.

  7. This is such a sad time Sarah is resting in peace in the gentle hands of God. No more earthly pain. I will pray for your family and those precious children.
    Peace and recovery
    Wendy H

  8. Our deepest condolences to everyone that knew Sarah. She was the best niece, wife, mother, daughter, sister & friend and many more I’m certain. She blessed us all that were able to get to know her. She will be greatly missed. I’m lucky to have many fond memories of her. My only wish is that her children could those instead of myself.
    My heart goes out to all of you.
    Jesica Hellwege

  9. I’m so sorry for everyone’s loss I knew Sarah through the benders as Chloe is my daughter. Sarah was always super kind and so sweet and a thoughtful person and the news definitely broke my heart. I’ll be praying for the family during this hard times just know she fought hard and is at peace with the Lord now and she no longer has to suffer. I’m praying especially hard for her sweet babies god please bring them peace 🙏

  10. To my dear sister in Christ, Brenda and family, my heartfelt condolences in the loss of your dear loved one, Sarah. May God bring you peace, comfort, and strength in this time of sorrow.

    Evelyn James

  11. Dear Renee and family, so sorry for the loss of your dear and beautiful niece. May God bring you peace and comfort in this difficult time.
    Vicky LeDuc

  12. I’m deeply saddened by your loss brother. To you and your entire family, you have my condolences. May this angel rest peacefully and always be remember in our hearts and mind. Nothing but love to the Bender family.


    Jeremy Evans

  13. Dear friends,
    As we keep Sarah’s memory alive in our hearts, Sarah will always be with us.
    God said “I Am the resurrection and the Life,
    They that believe in Me shall Not. die but have life everlasting 😇
    We Will see Sarah again! Hallelujah !

  14. I was blessed meeting Sarah at a FTF retreat. She was so sweet, compassionate, and brave. My heart and prayers go out to her family . I am so sorry for your loss. Hope you are surrou.nded by love to ease the pain of your loss

  15. Vickie, we are sending our deepest sympathy and heartfelt condolences to you and your family. Life is filled with swift transitions and your baby girl was a beautiful soul leaving the flower garden without one of its beautiful flowers. May My our hugs bring comfort to you and your entire family. Truly, Evelyn, Daniel, Danny and Devin Jamison. The Jamison family stand with you.

  16. Nick, so sorry for the tremendous loss of your wife, it hurts as I have been there lost my wife this May. I am praying for you and your family!

  17. Dear Nick & Family
    I trust in this this incredibly difficult time you find yourself surrounded by love and support. I am deeply saddened to hear about the passing of Sarah, and my heart aches for the profound loss you and your family are experiencing.

    Words feel inadequate in the face of such grief. Though I have only met Sarah briefly in Berlin. I remember that evening often. She was a remarkable women.

    May you find solace in the precious memories you shared, the love that bound you together, and the strength within you to navigate this challenging journey. Your wife’s spirit will live on in the hearts of those who knew and loved her, and her legacy will continue to shine brightly.

    Wishing you strength, courage, and peace as you navigate through the days ahead. Please take care of yourself, and know that my thoughts and prayers are with you.

    With deepest sympathies,

  18. I had the privilege and honor of meeting and knowing Sarah when I went to Oak Brook Elementary. She was kind-hearted to everyone and made others laugh and smile, just as much as she did. Sarah was friendly to everyone she met and knew. I just learned of this tragic news and wanted to give prayers and condolences to not only her 2 children and her husband, but to her extended family and everyone else’s lives that she touched. She was a special person and she will be missed.

    Love and prayers from your classmate,
    Nick Fulton

  19. Dear Brenda and family,
    I’m so sorry to hear of your loss. Wishing you peace during this difficult time.
    My prayers are with you and your family.
    Princess Whitson

  20. Dear Nick and family,

    So, so very sorry for your loss. My deepest sympathy and heartfelt condolences to you and your family at this incredibly difficult time.

    Keeping all in my prayers.

  21. This is Wm. Hegger, Uncle to Sarah. Sarah’s Dad’s oldest Brother. Living in Seattle, I met Sarah once when she was about 18. What a happy, joyful girl, I can only imagine from what I hear, that she was just a wonderful, person, wife, and Mom. While we are saddened by her passing, we know she is in a better place in heaven now. God Bless you Sarah!!

  22. Richard Hegger here, slightly older brother yet probably closest to Dan & Vickie as I reside in St L. I mostly recall Sarah & her sister Dawn as younger children. Boy how time cruises by? They grew up in a loving, caring family atmosphere which carries forward to their own families! Always joyful, smiles, warm engagement. God only takes the Best! She is in the arms of her Heavenly Father now to watch over her family and children.


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