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In Loving Memory

Fagan, Bernadette “Bernie”

March 6, 1954 - November 11, 2023

It is with heavy hearts that we announce the peaceful passing of Bernadette “Bernie” Diane Fagan (née Koch) on November 11, 2023 at the age of 69.

Beloved wife of John M. Fagan for 45 years, loving mother of Charles (Catherine) Fagan and Heather (Evan) Ardoin, adoring grandmother of Matthew, Norah and Emma Fagan and Felix and Margot Ardoin. Loving sister to Betty Collins, Beverly Driemeyer, and Barry (Tess) Koch. Bernie was preceded in death by her sister Barb Johnson and brother Bruce (Penny) Koch.

Bernie was raised in north St. Louis county. She graduated from the University of Missouri – Columbia in 1978, where she met her husband, John, and formed many life-long friendships. They raised their family in south St. Louis city in the St. Aloysius parish and cherished the community they found there. Eventually moving to south St. Louis county, Bernie could often be spotted driving around town in her signature T-bird convertible with Cardinals decals.

No matter where Bernie was, she lived a life full of passion. A dedicated wife, mother, grandmother, sister and aunt, Bernie loved her family first and foremost. She was a huge fan of the St. Louis Cardinals and never missed a game. She was a fierce competitor in Words with Friends, likely as a result of the many puzzles she completed as part of her daily routine. She loved swimming laps in her pool and teaching her grandchildren to swim. She will forever be remembered for her generous spirit, always willing to lend a hand to help someone in need.

Visitation will take place at Kutis Affton Chapel 10151 Gravois Road on Thursday, November 16, 2023 at 4:00 PM – 9:00 PM. A memorial service will be held at Kutis on Friday, November 17, 2023 at 10:00 AM. Interment will directly follow at Resurrection Cemetery at 6901 MacKenzie Road.

Memorial donations can be made to the Western Golf Association Evans Scholars Foundation – WGAESF – Home or Cardinals Care – Donate to Cardinals Care | St. Louis Cardinals (mlb.com)


22 thoughts on “Fagan, Bernadette “Bernie””

  1. Heather and Family,
    We can only imagine the shock. It will take a long time to fill this void. Please know that all of you are in our prayers as you navigate through these turbulent waters.
    With love and condolences,
    Bob & Kay

  2. Deepest sympathies to you and your family. May her soul rest in peace, and may God grant you comfort, strength and peace during these difficult times.

  3. Bernie loved with a huge heart…she will be greatly missed. Our thoughts and prayers are with everyone who had the opportunity to love her!

  4. John. Our condolences on the loss of Bernie. It was always fun to see her and our pitcher on softball team at St. Al’s. Alan and I and our kids send you our deep condolences and prayers.

  5. Dear John, We are very sad to hear of the passing of your beloved wife Bernie. We hug the whole family and send our condolences and sympathy during this difficult times.
    Sara & Harel ,

  6. John and family, Lynn and I are so sorry for your loss. Our deepest sympathies, thoughts, and prayers during this difficult time.

  7. To describe Bernie in one word- passionate; about her family, her Cardinals, her friends, her games and puzzles. Prayers to everyone who is missing this beautiful soul.

  8. John and Family, we are so sorry to hear of Bernie’s passing. May all your best memories fill your heart, and help heal your loss.
    Bill and Barb Bouchey

  9. John , Charlie and Family:

    I am sorry to hear about the loss of Bernie. I know she was a great Wife and Mother from your stories about her over the last 40 years. I hope you find comfort from your large family and network of great friends.

    Mike Marcec

  10. John and Family,

    What a tremendous joy and honor to have been blessed to know Bernie. Her generosity and kindness had no equal. As a first responder – I was in awe of how Bernie would be of service to those who served. And if she did something kind for another soul, she didn’t need to brag or even have the person know where the kindness came from. She was so kind to my best friend Bill before he passed and just as kind to us. We will treasure knowing her and never forget her. You are all in our thoughts and prayers. Godspeed.

    The Zarricks
    Dan, Brigid and Faith

  11. We are so sorry to hear about the loss of Bernie, a loving wife, mother and grand mother. Please accept our deep sympathies and know that we are thinking of you at this very sad time.

    Love, Carol and David Roe

  12. John, so very sorry to hear about Bernie. Will always remember her as fun loving and full of life. We are thinking about you and your family during this very difficult time.

    Bob and Marcia Grashoff

  13. John, Charlie and Heather,
    I am so sorry for you and saddened to hear of Bernie’s passing. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
    Jonathan Heitner

  14. I was saddened and shocked to learn about Bernie. She was just telling me about how she loved Halloween and was sharing some of her favorite jokes and traditions. She will be greatly missed. My thoughts and prayers are with you all at this difficult time.
    Carrie Hogrebe (Endres Hort)


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