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In Loving Memory

McDuffy, John R.

January 16, 1953 - December 1, 2023

Fortified with the Sacraments of Holy Mother Church, Friday, December 1, 2023.  Beloved husband of Helen T. McDuffy (nee: Longo) for over 25 years.  Dear father of Heather (Bob) Allinger and John (Teresa) McDuffy.  Loving grandfather of Jacob (Natalie) Sander, Wyatt Allinger, Hannah McDuffy, Clayton Schlater, Jeremiah McDuffy, Christian McDuffy and Madalyn McDuffy.  Dear great grandfather of Kamden Sander and Grace Sander.  Loving fur daddy of Bella.  Dear brother of Mark (Gloria) McDuffy, Jeff (Jill) McDuffy and Kenny (Gwen) McDuffy.  Dear brother-in-law of Rose Marie (the late Edward) Conner, John (Sandra) Longo, Mary (Charlie) Bohn, Dottie (Kevin) Jekel, Frank Longo and the late Alphonso (Peggy) Longo and Patrick (Ann) Longo.  Our dear uncle, great uncle, great great uncle, cousin and friend.

Mr. McDuffy taught PSR at St. Paul Catholic Church and at St. Anthony Catholic Church (High Ridge, MO) for 18 years.  He was a devout catholic, avid fisherman and never met a stranger.

SERVICES:  Funeral from Kutis Affton Chapel 10151 Gravois Road on Monday, December 11, 9:30 a.m. to St. Paul Catholic Church 15 Forest Knoll Dr., Fenton, Mo., 63026 for 10:00 a.m. Mass.  Interment private.  Visitation for family Sunday 2 p.m.  and for the public 3 – 9 p.m.


14 thoughts on “McDuffy, John R.”

  1. Farewell my awesome big brother. The brother’s trips we all took loom so very large now that you are gone. Our fishing times were fantastic and you were there when I caught my biggest fish. You always had a joke to make us laugh and through all this you never lost your joy. I will see you again in a perfect body free of pain and suffering. Until then I will remember the time we shared. I Love you!

  2. What a wonderful person John was. Always so much fun but also serious when he needed to be. We are all lucky to have known him as a friend. I talked with John last week, he talked to me about his wake and funeral. He took my hand and looked at me. He told me that when he made it to heaven he was going to tell the Lord to save a place at his heavenly table for me and for all of his friends. I was so touched that even as he faced his own mortality he was thinking of everyone else. But that’s John.

    • John
      Rest in heaven, you serve the Lord well you taught teen about the good of the Lord. I remember you from psr, you taught my daughter. I know kids love your teaching. Helen and you are great friends to have. Miss you my friend. Your one of a kind.

  3. I only knew John for a little over 2 years, but what an impact he had on my life! He was the funniest guy around, and yet, also, the kindest! He loved the Lord, and I know he is with Him and they are up there telling corny jokes! What a perfect friend. Helen, I cannot know your sadness, I can only offer my prayers for you and your family. Everyone, and I mean Everyone who ever met him, including his health care team, will miss him dearly, and Yes, Only a Lot!

  4. The brother love traveling show has lost the lead brother and somehow the show must go on. You are always the star of our show and we will not be the same without you my big brother.
    Love from your little brother💙

  5. Bob and I are so very sorry for your loss and for all of our losses. He was such a kind, loving , fun person who brought the light of Christ with him where ever he went. He took you in with his smile every time you saw him, even in sickness.
    God rest his soul and bring comfort to Helen and the whole family. He will be so missed by so many.
    Love and prayers to you.

  6. To my uncle John. You took such great care of my grandma And you made my aunt Helen very happy and you are a Kind And thoughtful person , with great sense of humor! I’m so glad we got to talk before you left us. Say hello to To everyone and give them my love. Love you

  7. I’ve known you since I was 5, not knowing at that time that you would become my brother-in-law. I loved our talks about heaven, our faith, family and precious memories of times past. You warmed my heart in all of those precious conversations. I love you more than you ever knew. Be waiting for us, dear brother. We’ll see you in heaven. Jill

  8. yo big brother the many times we spent together the brother trips the time at your house always funning and crazy will miss those time you rested peacefully now you playing with mom and mario dad alyson hope your enjoying the party hug them all love and miss you

  9. There’s not much I can say about John that hasn’t already been said. I know he’s in Heaven looking down on all of us. I just wish I could hug him and tell him that I love him one last time.

    Until we meet again,

  10. Mr McDuffy was my PSR teacher for 8th grade confirmation back in the early 2000s. He mad a profound impact on my faith and I will always remember him for that. Rest peacefully.

  11. Uncle john you were the best. your 1 liners at every thanksgiving were funny. I will never forget you and you will be forever in my heart may you rest in peace.

    love heath


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