Beloved husband of Patricia A. Forde. Dear father of Thomas B. (Christine) and Andrew T. Ahr. Dear stepfather of Victoria A. and Patricia A. Nikolov. Dear grandfather of Matthew B. and Brian C. Ahr. Dear brother of Peter, David (Martha), Philip (Dawn) and Denis (Barbara) Ahr. Our dear son-in-law, nephew, uncle, cousin and friend.
Dr. Ahr was a proud graduate of St. Benedict’s Preparatory School – Newark, NJ and the University of Notre Dame class of 1966. He received his Master’s in Public Administration from the University of Southern California and also his Master’s in International Affairs from Washington University in St. Louis. With his further education, he received his Doctorate in Clinical Psychology from Catholic University and Post-Doctoral Fellow at the Harvard Medical School Department of Psychiatry. He proudly served his country as a Vietnam veteran serving as a Psychologist on Active Duty at the US Naval Hospitals in Bethesda, MD and Oakland, CA as well as the Headquarters of the US Marine Corps in Arlington, VA and the Patuxent River Naval Air Station in St. Mary’s County, MD. Dr. Ahr was the former Director of the Missouri Department of Mental Health where he led the 12,500 persons workforce to provide services and help for Missourians with mental disorders, developmental disabilities and substance use disorders. Dr. Ahr was a former President of Camillus House where he worked to improve the quality of life of those who are vulnerable and homeless in South Florida. He also held teaching positions at four major universities and authored and co-authored nine books on a variety of topics as well as more than 30 published articles, reports and papers on professional topics. Dr. Ahr was known as an accomplished poet, self-taught pianist, aficionado of the Ukelele and a lifelong Brooklyn/LA Dodgers fan.
SERVICES: Funeral from Kutis Affton Chapel (10151 Gravois Road Affton, Missouri 63123) on Monday, April 7, 9:00 a.m. to St. Francis Xavier Catholic Church (College Church) for 10:00 a.m. Mass. Celebration of Mass will also be livestreamed at the following link: 4/7/2025 – Funeral Mass for Dr. Paul Ahr Interment Resurrection Cemetery. In lieu of flowers, contributions to Camillus House ( Camillus.org ) appreciated. Visitation Sunday 4:00 – 6:00 p.m.
I am deeply shocked & saddened about Paul’s passing. Over the years, Paul showed me great kindness, offered sound advice, had a wonderful sense of humor & always extended a warm & genuine welcome any time I came to visit & stay at his home in Florida. I will always be most grateful for his warmth & generosity.
My heart goes out to you Bunny in particular, as well as to Paul’s son’s, his step daughters & the wider family during this difficult time.
Ar dheis Dé go raimh a anam.
So sorry to hear of Paul’s untimely death. Condolences to you and all the family. Paul will be missed. Love Geri and Pete
Bunny, we are so sorry to hear of your husband passing, our sincere condolences, Bridie Harte and family
Our $83M Camillus House Campus is the fruit of Paul’s genius, vision and persistence. Since it’s opening in June, 2012, the Campus has positively impacted the lives of thousands of poor and homeless women, men and children in South Florida.
I’m sure he’s admiring his work from On High!
Sincere sympathy to Patricia and Family and to all the Ahr families on the sad passing of Paul .May he rest in peace.
So sad to hear of Paul’s unexpected departure into blessed eternity. Wishing Patricia and extended family the grace of many prayers offered at this time for Paul and family.
Paul,
Miss you so!
Auntie Sally
Dear Pat and family,
I was deeply saddened to hear about Paul’s passing, and I wanted to share my heartfelt condolences with you. Though Paul and I had grown apart in recent years, the memories of our time together remain meaningful to me. He touched the lives of many, including mine, in ways that won’t be forgotten.
Please know that my thoughts are with you and your family during this difficult time. I hope you can find comfort in the love and support of those around you, as well as in the cherished memories of your husband.
Deepest condolences at this most difficult time, thinking of you and asking God to surround you with his love 🙏🙏🙏
Bunny,
We are so very saddened to hear of Paul’s sudden passing. We are thinking of you and sending love and prayers.
Our condolences to all the family.
Nancy and Chris
We will miss Paul terribly! I am so glad I got the opportunity to get closer to him over the years, talking mostly family and Notre Dame Football!
Tons of Love Bun
Dear Bunny,
Paul shared his talents and desire to help others with so many through his work at Camillus House. He has left a wonderful legacy for those in need. We are saddened by your sudden loss of Paul. Please know you are in our thoughts and prayers.
Sending our love and condolences, Mary and John
I am blessed to have heard many stories from Dr. Ahr’s about his deep love for family, for Camillus House, and of course—for a good BLT. While Dr. Ahr’s physical presence at Camillus will be deeply missed, his legacy will live on in the mission he so passionately supported.
May he fly high, and may his memory continue to inspire. My heartfelt condolences to his family and to all who feel the weight of this profound loss.
Pat, our prayers are with you and your family during this difficult time. I was a board member during Dr. Ahr’s leadership and appreciated his intentionality and purpose-driven leadership. I also had the fortune to meet and admire you so I am grateful for that too. May he RIP.
Paul was a dear friend much loved by us and our family. Always there for his friends to share good times and bad. We loved Paul and will his friendship and companionship. He will be missed.
For sure, Paul is looking at us from his place in Heaven.
Patricia and Vito Spitaleri
The world has lost both.an intellectual giant and a practical provider of solutions to the needs of the disadvantaged.
It was an honor to serve as a member of the Camillus House board and to be a friend of Paul from the day we met nearly 20 years ago.
My condolences to Bunny and his family.
Bunny, I am so sorry for this shocking loss.
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Peace and Love, kelli
My sincere condolences to all the AHR family. Paul was a dear friend, and he made a great professional contribution to the Church and society. I offer my prayers for Paul and for all the family. May he rest in peace.
Dear Bunny,
We are so very sorry to hear of your husband’s Paul’s passing. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.
Debbie and Danny
Dear Bunny,
I am deeply saddened to hear of your husband’s passing. We never met, but I can see from his photo that he was a caring, kind and extremely intelligent man…. I send my condolences to you, your children and to your extended family and friends.
Nancy Dougherty
Dr. Ahr, was a kind and compassionate soul. He was so compassionate and generous with his time for those in need of him and his support! You will surely be missed my friend, GO IRISH!!
Such a great man. Rest in power Dr Ahr.