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In Loving Memory

Heckstetter, Mary “Connie”

January 20, 1948 - December 28, 2023

Mary “Connie” Heckstetter, born on January 20, 1948, gracefully departed this world on December 28, 2023. Loving wife of Daniel Heckstetter. Loving mother of Jeny, Danny (Stephanie); loving grandmother of Jacob and Zachary; dear sister of Albert (Erma) “Skip” Guise, Cliff (Mary) Guise, Chris (Christine) Guise. Connie was preceded in death by her parents Albert and Lucille Guise, Mother-in-law Victoria Heckstetter and Father-in-law Eugene Heckstetter, Sr.

Connie found immense joy in her dedicated service at the St. Louis Archdiocesan Mission Office’s Society for the Propagation of the Faith, where she forged enduring friendships with her beloved companions, the Mission Bells.

Her education journey led her through the hallowed halls of St. Francis de Sales Grade School and Rosati-Kain High School, where she undoubtedly left an indelible mark on the hearts of those fortunate to know her. A true pillar of faith, Connie was a devoted parishioner and ardent supporter of St. Francis of Assisi in South St. Louis, contributing to the vibrant spirit of the community.

The news of Connie’s departure leaves a void that resonates deeply within her close-knit community of neighbors. Connie was not just a neighbor; she was the beating heart of her street, always ready with a warm smile, open arms, and a listening ear for anyone in need.

Connie’s unique ability to foster meaningful connections made her an invaluable member of her extended family of neighbors. Her door was not just open; it was a portal to camaraderie, shared stories, and the comforting reassurance that a genuine friend was just steps away.

For her grandchildren and the neighborhood children, Connie was a beacon of joy and creativity. Her enthusiasm for life translated into endless adventures, turning ordinary days into extraordinary memories. Whether it was helping them discover hidden treasures, sharing in their laughter, or simply being a trusted confidante, Connie played an irreplaceable role in shaping the childhoods of those around her.

Services: Funeral from KUTIS SOUTH COUNTY CHAPEL 5255 Lemay Ferry Rd., Friday, January 5, 9:30 a.m. to St. Francis of Assisi Catholic Church for 10 a.m. Mass. Interment Jefferson Barracks National Cemetery. Visitation Thursday 4-8 p.m.

In lieu of flowers: Pontifical Mission Societies – https://onefamilyinmission.org/ or Rosati Kain High School – https://rosati-kain.org/ appreciated.


10 thoughts on “Heckstetter, Mary “Connie””

  1. Connie Guise-Heckstetter took over the MATRIARCHAL position when her beloved Mother “Grandma Lou” passed away.

    Connie definitely had the wisdom to enrich the Guise Heckstetter family..
    A wise and a respected leader, often due to her experience, knowledge and guidance.

    We will join you someday to share your heavenly happiness.

    Peace to your family…

    Valerie deMesa-Bruemmer

  2. I am not prepared to let Connie go. We had to many things to do.. Connie was my big sister and I will miss her dearly. Please also include condolences to the Eirvin,Love,and our huge Everding family. I will be there Thursday and Friday. Love to all of us old cousins.

  3. To one of the most loving and caring family the Heckstetters: My deepest Sympathy to you all. I KNOW YOU ARE SO PRPUD OF THE LEGACY CONNIE LEFT
    Please keep those memories alive . God bless you all.
    Because of illness I will be unable to attend the service but I will pray for her and family.
    When I think of the him Remember Me As Loving You those words are CONNIE
    Your friend Donna

  4. You could not know Connie without being her friend.
    Whenever a think of Connie a smile comes over my face.
    Rest in peace and pain free my dear friend.

  5. I am so sorry for the loss to the Guise/Heckstetter family, but I know that Connie is sitting at the feet of her Lord and Savior. I got to know Connie when I started working at Guise Studio in 1966 and continued on and off for 20 years in their various offices. The rest of the Guise family was involved with the photography business and often included me in family events. Connie was one of my bridesmaids when I got married at St. John the Baptist in 1970. My Mom made my dress and the bridesmaid’s. She had to wait until the last minute to finish Connie’s. since she was pregnant! I had a nice lunch/visit with Connie in 2015 or 16 when I go to take a visit back home. I moved to Houston in 1989 and took Connie’s aunt Dorothy to live with me. I will be praying for the family. Hugs to all.

  6. I met Connie in 1960 when I started the seventh grade at St. Francis de Sales. She was my best friend before my sister in law. Connie loved to laugh but she loved most to make others laugh. I will always remember her with a big smile and every time I laugh I will think of her.

  7. My heart hurts hearing about the loss of my friend Connie. We met through our American Legion Post 422 Auxiliary. She will be sorely missed by all of at the post. She was a vibrant light in our group full of life and laughter. She brought many talents to our organization her kindness, friendship to all along with her quick witt which will not be forgotten. She was such a great leader amongst us full of love for all. I will miss her immensely. Peace to all of Connie’s family and friends! Rest in Peace Connie,

  8. I will remember Aunt Connie for her contagious laughter and her joyful nature. She never hesitated in making my daughter feel just as loved and valued as her other great nieces and nephews. My children have so many fun memories of the wacky games Aunt Connie came up with at the annual Grandma Lu Christmas parties. She will be terribly missed on this side of Heaven. We are praying for the Guise and Heckstetter families.

  9. Even as a freshman at R-K, I knew that senior, Connie Guise was special. She was a mover and shaker and was even kind and helpful to a freshman. My many years at R-K it was always a pleasure to meet Connie at work.
    She will be missed by so many.
    May she be richly rewarded for all her goodness.

  10. The news of Connie’s death has shocked us all. She has always had a true love of life and an ability to make every one feel special. She loved her family, her friends, America and was devoutly faithful. She has been a member of our American Legion auxiliary for many years and her absence will leave a huge void. To Dan and her family we love you and are praying you find peace in the countless wonderful memories. Rest in peace friend. We will truly miss you.


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