Carol Ann Heyde (née Costley) entered into rest in the early hours of Tuesday, April 21, 2026, at the age of 84. Beloved wife of James L. Heyde; loving mother of David (Katrin Noller), Paul (Elizabeth Fuller), and Jonathan Heyde; dear grandmother of Paul Emil Noller; dear sister of the late Charles G. (Carolyn) Costley; dear sister-in-law, aunt, and friend.
Carol was born on February 18, 1942, in St. Louis, MO, to Charles and Angenette (Specht) Costley, and grew up in Lemay and Affton. She graduated from Bayless High School, class of 1959, and worked at Union Electric in the 1960s. Carol married Jim Heyde on April 22, 1972. They settled in Kirkwood, where they raised their three sons and were long-time members of Trinity Lutheran Church. Carol spent her final years in the care of the dedicated staff at Laclede Groves in Webster Groves.
Carol was a member of the St. Louis Ski Club in her twenties and fondly recalled the ski trips she went on to the Rockies and the Alps; she remained an enthusiastic traveler throughout her life and traveled extensively in retirement. Carol was an avid reader of everything from the classics to today’s bestsellers, enjoyed learning and trying out new recipes and cuisines, and was always a supportive and dependable wife, mother, and friend. She will be missed.
Services: Visitation at Kutis Affton Chapel Friday, April 24, beginning at 12:30 pm until the service begins at 1:30 pm and following the service until 3:30 pm. Memorials to Trinity Lutheran Church in Kirkwood appreciated.
Jim, David, Paul and John,
Please accept my heartfelt sympathy for the loss of your dear wife and mother. Carol was such a lovely person. I am sure that she was the glue that held the Heyde family together, What a strong, wonderful famly she created. Your grief must be overwhelming now but please know that she is only ever just a thought away. Go there often. May your memories sustain you now.
Dear Ingrid,
Thank you very much for the beautiful vase of flowers sent for Carol’s funeral. We had a vase for each side of the casket, including one from my sister’s kids in Pennsylvania.
Jim
I mostly remember Carol as the little cousin of my father (Harry Keough), my uncle (Bill Keough), and my two Keough aunts (Norma & Betty). I remember her always with a smile on her face and as a super kind person. Norma & Betty (born in 1922 & 1924) always enjoyed doing fun activities with Carol, and I’m guessing introduced snow skiing to Carol, and possibly also ice skating, as they were lovers of winter sports. They enjoyed traveling together – and always had fun! Looking at Carol’s photo I see a great resemblance to my grandmother, Elizabeth Costley Keough – who was Carol’s aunt on her father’s side. Carol was such a good and kind person!
Thanks Colleen…………the Keough’s were certainly loved and enjoyed by Carol. It was a blessing that Betty showed up in Laclede Groves.
Jim
We will truly miss you Carol!!! Your Reach East Family!!!! Condolences does to Jim and Family.