The Honorable Raymond H. “Ray” Dickhaner, 76, of St. Louis, Missouri, passed away peacefully on June 28, 2026, leaving behind an extraordinary legacy of justice, public service, and unwavering devotion to his family and community.
Born on March 4, 1950, in St. Louis, Missouri, Ray was the son of the late Richard and Betty Dickhaner. From an early age, he possessed an inquisitive mind, a strong sense of fairness, and a genuine desire to help others — qualities that would define both his distinguished legal career and the way he lived his life.
Ray was the beloved husband of Nancy Dickhaner, with whom he shared a lifetime of love, laughter, and adventure. Together they built a beautiful family that remained the center of his life. He was a devoted father to Jessica (Scott) Settlemoir and Dustin (Mandy) Ostrowski, and a proud grandfather to Alexandra (Zach) Shields, Hailee Settlemoir, Sienna Settlemoir, and Abby Ostrowski. Nothing brought Ray greater joy than spending time with his family, celebrating their accomplishments, and creating memories that will be treasured for generations.
Ray also shared an especially close and treasured bond with his brother, Harry. More than brothers, they were best friends. Their relationship was built on a lifetime of love, loyalty, laughter, and unwavering support. Ray and Harry spoke on the phone daily, a tradition that reflected the deep connection they shared and the comfort they found in one another. Their conversations, friendship, and brotherly love were a constant source of joy in Ray’s life. Harry held a very special place in Ray’s heart, and the bond they shared will remain one of the most cherished parts of Ray’s legacy.
Born with a passion for learning and a heart for serving others, Ray earned his bachelor’s degree from Westminster College in 1971, his Juris Doctor from Washington University in St. Louis in 1974, and a Master of Laws degree from Washington University in 1978.
He began his legal career in 1974 as a law clerk for the Eastern District Court of Appeals before entering private practice in Hillsboro in 1975. Over the next three decades, Ray established himself as one of the region’s most respected attorneys, representing individuals, municipalities, fire protection districts, and sewer districts throughout the area. He also proudly served as legal counsel for Jefferson County 911, providing trusted guidance to agencies dedicated to serving their communities.
In September 1983, Ray was honored with the Missouri Bar Trial Lawyer of the Year Award in recognition of his exceptional advocacy, professionalism, and dedication to the practice of law. Colleagues often described him as a brilliant trial attorney highly intelligent, exceptionally prepared, and deeply respected but what impressed people most was not only his legal ability. It was his humility, kindness, and genuine compassion for everyone he encountered.
A pioneer in Jefferson County’s judicial system, Ray served as the founding judge of the Jefferson County Municipal Court, helping establish the court and shape its future. In 2006, he was elected Associate Circuit Judge for Division 11 and was re-elected in 2010. Throughout his years on the bench, he earned the admiration of attorneys, colleagues, court staff, and the citizens he served through his fairness, integrity, wisdom, and unwavering commitment to justice.
Those who appeared before him or worked alongside him remember a judge who was compassionate, understanding, and genuinely cared about people. He believed deeply in truth and honesty, never hesitating to tell someone what they needed to hear rather than what they wanted to hear. Whether mentoring young attorneys, leading those around him, or presiding over the courtroom, Ray sought to guide others toward the right path with fairness, dignity, and respect. Many considered him not only an outstanding judge but also a trusted mentor, an exceptional boss, and a loyal friend. His wisdom was matched only by his kindness, and his compassion left a lasting impression on countless lives. Many have said Jefferson County could use more public servants like Ray, a reflection of the profound impact he had on his community.
Ray’s dedication extended well beyond the courtroom. He served on the Board of Directors for the Glaize Creek Sewer District, was a member and past president of the Kohler City Lions Club, served on the Board of the Greater Hillsboro Chamber of Commerce, was an active member of the Boy Scout District Council, faithfully served as secretary of the Hillsboro Rotary Club, and served on the Jefferson County Growth Association Board during the 1990s. His leadership, generosity, and commitment strengthened the communities he loved.
Outside of his distinguished career, Ray embraced life with enthusiasm. He and Nancy shared a love of travel and cherished every opportunity to explore new places together. Whether taking a road trip or visiting a favorite destination, their adventures created lifelong memories.
Ray was also a passionate St. Louis sports fan. He never missed a St. Louis Rams home football game during their years in St. Louis and remained a devoted St. Louis Cardinals fan throughout his life. Sharing those experiences with family and friends became some of his favorite traditions.
Ray will be remembered as a man of honor, humility, compassion, quiet strength, and unwavering integrity. He possessed a remarkable ability to make people feel heard and respected, regardless of their circumstances. His lifelong pursuit of justice was never about winning — it was about doing what was right. His steadfast commitment to public service, honest counsel, and deep love for his family leave an enduring legacy that will continue to inspire generations.
In addition to his wife, Nancy, and their children and grandchildren, Ray is survived by his beloved brother, Harry (Jan) Dickhaner; his nieces, Kristin (Andy) and Mandy (Drew); five great-nieces; one great-nephew; many dear friends; extended family members; and countless colleagues throughout the legal community.
He was preceded in death by his parents, Richard and Betty Dickhaner, and by the loved ones who welcomed him home.
Visitation will be held from 4:00 to 7:00 p.m. on Friday, July 10, at Kutis South County Chapel, 5255 Lemay Ferry Road, St. Louis, Missouri.
In lieu of flowers, memorial contributions may be made to Thorne Nature Experience in Lafayette, Colorado, where his granddaughter, Hailee Settlemoir, serves as Development and Communications Manager. Donations in Ray’s memory would honor his love of family, education, and the natural world.bit.ly/raydickhanerforthorne
Ray’s legacy lives on through the family he cherished, the community he faithfully served, and the countless lives he touched with his wisdom, kindness, humility, and integrity. While he will be remembered as an accomplished attorney and respected judge, those who knew him best will remember something even greater a genuinely good man who treated every person with compassion, fairness, and respect. He will be deeply missed, forever remembered, and always loved.